Where To Find a Lifetime BFF
Navigating the networking waters is tough.
But here are some places where you can meet people in college.
These are tricky. You're bound to buddy up with someone if you're stuck learning statistic with them for 5 months. The thing is, what happens after class ends during and after the semester?
If you genuinely think that your classmate is cool and want to hang out, ask if they want to get some lunch or a snack after class.
This shows that you're willing to commit to being friends and you're not just trying to get last week's class notes without looking like an asshole.
What makes friending easy this way is that you already have something to talk about. Is your professor really gross? Does that chick sitting in the front have B.O?
But if school is the only topic you guys talk about, I think just asking for yesterday's class notes should be the extent of your relationship. Maybe a nod when you pass each other in the library.
When I say group outings, I mean when you go out with your friends and turns out they invited a whole group of people (with or without giving you early notice).
But hey, when life gives you lemons, you make friends with the lemons your main lemon didn't tell you were going to come with to the Exploratorium.
Sure you're a little irked, but hey... Lemons.
I feel like 90% of friendships are built around mutual friends. It's like a Netflix recommendation.
Looks like you liked hanging out with Karen. Have you tried talking to her friend Angie about Forever 21?
During group hangout sessions, there's usually one person, in addition to you, who doesn't really know anyone except the person who invited them.
And usually, maybe because of the unfair laws of human nature, the people who invite them to hangout are talking to other people.
What does this mean? It means you get to swoop in like a hawk and hunt your prey. And by hunting I mean making polite and friendly conversation. It helps if you also don't really know anyone else and you mention that awkwardness.
I don't get invited to parties, but lets pretend for the sake of this blog that I do. I actually did get invited to a bonfire, and I had tons of fun. I would assume the environment was in the similar category as a regular party:
Underage drinking, pot smoking, college seniors and random people dropping in and leaving.
As a public figure, I did not partake in the alcohol consumption. Well, it was more like was offered a beer but it tasted pretty gross so I pretended to drink it and threw it away.
To make friends at a party, you need to find someone who has your same blood alcohol content. No way is sober Sally going to be BFFs with turnt Tina.
Ask questions... So many questions. I love to talk about myself, and I'm sure people love to talk about themselves too. Here's a good example of how questions lead to friendships:
You: So what's your major?
Future BFF: Oh I'm a ........... major.
You: (Depending on the major)
...What's that about?
... Woah! That's awesome. We need more (insert the career that major brings)
Parties aren't just about getting alcohol poisoning.
They're also about meeting new people who you might not talk to outside your social circle.
This list is not comprehensive, unlike your final exam.
But the point is that you should make that jump if you're not sure about going to that party or talking to the person next to you.
Worst that could happen is you don't meet anybody or you have nothing in common.
Best that could happen is you meet someone who will accompany through the trials and tribulations of life, and that someone might also be a potential bae. I think that's worth it.